Emma’s Gone
Art Went To Be With The Lord
Busy Around The House
Emma’s Gone
Denise and Emma left for North Carolina and I was able to control my emotions pretty well. My eyes are moist in the photo, but no tears – that would come later, just before bed that night. It was late, I was in the hall and realized that I would no longer hear “Hi, dad!” – slam!!! @ 130 decibels. Yes, it was often annoying, night after night over the years, but now it seems rather endearing. So, before I went to sleep I looked through Emma’s baby book and scrapbook – I’ll miss that quirky little girl. I also realized that 28 years of family life under the same roof has finally come to an end – a relationship enjoyed for 56% of my entire life! It’s sort of like starting a new career. I’m sure it will take a lot of adjustment and I’ll be journaling my feelings.
Art Went To Be With The Lord
My friend Dale called to let me know that Art had finally succumbed to pancreatic cancer and the memorial was Sunday. Art was diagnosed about a year ago and began receiving hospice care but in typical fashion, Art wore them out and stubbornly continued on with a ton of energy and his usual “can-do” spirit. They told him to call them when he was ready. Denise saw him at the AAA just over two weeks ago and he was chipper as ever!
I was disappointed that I wasn’t able to share how much Art meant to me at the memorial service, but it had to be cut short because of heat and cramped conditions – he had a lot of family and friends. I’m sure I’ll write more about him later, but I need to say that Art exerted more influence on my life than few others. He had many friends and I don’t know how I rated with him, but I can say with certainty that he was my best “guy” friend during the early 80’s and I spent as much time with him as possible. I would even help him with chores and building things, just to make more time to “sit at his feet.”
Most people would think we had little in common, particularly age – he was 27 years older than me. We did not like the same kinds of music or film, we didn’t go for the same foods, we shared few interests… We did, however, come from deceptive cults to faith in the Jesus of the Bible and experienced together a whole new world of grace and knowledge at the same time.
Art was a voracious reader and a valuable resource to a young, uneducated man like myself. I can say that his nose for excellent reference materials was keen and he never, ever steered me wrong. And, though I may not have agreed with his analysis or conception of certain doctrines or ideas, his references and citations were impeccable. I don’t ever remember getting in a substantive disagreement with Art and he was a great listener. When I think of Art, I picture him standing, looking at the ground, with his hands clasped behind his back (always a wool cap on), listening intently and then responding now and again, by looking up and saying, “aah… yes.” Then, when I was finished he would begin teaching me and I was content to sit and listen to Art for literally hours. Often, he would whip out his four-colored ballpoint pen to diagram concepts about the nature of God and man or the Adventist doctrine of the investigative judgment, Greek verb tenses or problems in the Mormon Plan of Salvation. I’m sure his family wondered about me, because they were clearly non-plussed by Art’s interest in such things.
I will never, ever forget Art and neither will Denise or our children. He was an original… a recognized genius and self-taught renaissance man. It was as if there was not a single subject Art didn’t know even a little something about. But the coolest thing about Art was, when he prayed, he spoke to the Lord like a little boy.
Hope I see you soon, Art. We’ll chat.
Busy Around The House
Blogging took a back seat to household chores this week, which I enjoyed very much. Besides keeping the house tidy while Denise was away, I did a few loads of laundry, cooked enough spaghetti sauce for about eight meals, had folks over for supper a few times and coordinated the renovation of the bathroom.
Of course, I love doing the dishes and I changed the oil in the truck, hung the closet doors in Emma’s room (now the guestroom) and fixed a variety of little things around our modest abode. My library was reorganized and I decorated a bit in the office and living room. Besides all that, I was able to entertain a few guests.
I need to do this more often… it’s therapeutic.